Should you remain in a bad marriage solely for the sake of the children?
All too many times, people do just that, thinking that they are doing what’s best for their children.
But is divorce bad for children?
Psychologists have known for years that staying married for the sake of the children is a bad idea.
An article in Scientific American supports the psychologists and dispels the myth of divorce damaging children. It states “[p]arents who split have reasons for hope. Researchers have found that only a relatively small percentage of children experience serious problems in the wake of divorce or, later, as adults.” Some of the other highlights of this article include:
Children from high-discord families may experience the divorce as a welcome relief from their parents’ fighting. Yet scientific research does not support the view that problems in adulthood are prevalent; it instead demonstrates that most children of divorce become well-adjusted adults.
Even though children of divorce generally do well, a number of factors can reduce the problems they might experience. Children fare better if parents can limit conflict associated with the divorce process or minimize the child’s exposure to it.
Further, children who live in the custody of at least one well-functioning parent do better than those whose primary parent is doing poorly. In the latter situation, the maladjusted parent should seek professional help or consider limiting his or her time with the child. Parents can also support their children during this difficult time by talking to them clearly about the divorce and its implications and answering their questions fully.
The good news is that although divorce is hard and often extremely painful for children, long-term harm is not inevitable. Most children bounce back and get through this difficult situation with few if any battle scars.
Should you be in the midst of a divorce or contemplating divorce, contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar either through email or telephone 978-844-4095 to schedule a FREE one hour no obligation consultation to discuss your particular situation.