In some of many cases, the time that a parent spends with their children is modified by requiring third party supervision.
Frequently enforced by court order, supervised parenting time involves scheduled appointments for parent-child contact that will be monitored in a safe environment where a child’s safety is at risk due to the behavior of their parent.
While it may place certain restrictions on how a parent a child can spend their time together, supervised parenting time does allow a parent to continue cultivating a relationship with their child.
If you’re a parent who attends supervised parenting time with your child or your child sees their other parent this way, here are some suggestions to help you and your child make the most of these parenting times.
Types of Parenting Plans
Supervised parenting time can take place by way of physical meetings between parent and child or monitored phone or video conversations. The type of parenting plan ordered in each situation will be chosen based on what is the best interests of the child. If you are granted supervised parenting time by way of physical visits, these may take place in a specified facility that offers such services or in a location that you, your co-parent, and the court agree upon.
Preparing Yourself for Supervised Parenting Time
You may not agree or like to see your child on a set schedule and be supervised by someone you possibly don’t know well. However, the best thing you can do for your child in this situation is to make the most of your time together.
Dedicate yourself to attending each scheduled appointment and always being on time. Get to know the rules of your parenting time and follow them. Some rules may by court order and others may pertain specifically to the visitation center you are attending.
Be prepared to talk to your child and this means keeping the conversation age appropriate. Regardless of your feelings on the situation, do not badmouth your co-parent, your parenting time supervisor, or even the parenting center itself. If these will be your only moments of direct contact with your child for the foreseeable future, they shouldn’t be anything less than a good experience for all involved.
Also, you might think of something that you and your child can look forward to doing together during each appointment. If your child likes listening to stories, choose a book with chapters so that you can both enjoy reading a little more of the story on each appointment. If your child likes art or putting things together, choose a craft or project that you can work on a little bit each time you’re together.
Getting Children Ready for Supervised Parenting Time
As a parent whose child attends supervised parenting time with their other parent, it is equally important for you to participate by way of getting your child ready to attend their visits. Talk about these appointments beforehand and get them marked on a calendar that your child has access to. More than just talking about when they’ll happen, encourage your child to look forward to them even if you have certain negative feelings about your co-parent, support your child in their efforts to build a relationship with their other parent by speaking positively about their upcoming visitations. When your child leaves a supervised session, be prepared to let your child give you as much information as they want to about it. Don’t interview them about the visit; instead, allow them to say as much as they want.
Should you have questions or concerns with supervised parenting plans, contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar either through email or telephone 978-844-4095 to schedule a FREE one hour no obligation consultation.