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The Top 10 Signs You Are In a Dysfunctional Relationship in Massachusetts

It's very difficult to acknowledge or even consider that you might be in a Divorce 78.jpgdysfunctional relationship. Your friends may have expressed concern, your family may have intervened, or maybe you are silently suffering in your relationship, all alone.

Sometimes we do not even know how bad things are. Some say to themselves, "It'll get better." Or maybe others say, "This is how all relationships are." Sometimes that is true, however, most of the time, it's not.

Everyone deserves to be in a loving and supportive relationship. The difficult step is being honest about what kind of relationship you are in and being ready to seek help and make a change.

Here are the top 10 signs of serious relationship distress.

SIGN #1: ABUSIVE OR CRITICAL LANGUAGE

If your partner is criticizing you, belittling you, or regularly saying negative things that make you feel inferior, this type of communication is toxic and unhealthy.

SIGN #2: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

25% of women will experience an act of physical violence in their relationship over the course of a lifetime. If you are the person committing the physical violence or the victim of domestic violence, getting professional help can be extremely supportive. There are shelters for victims of domestic violence and counselors that specialize in this complex issue. Don't wait until things get desperate to seek professional help and support.

SIGN #3: DISGUST OR CONTEMPT FOR YOUR PARTNER

Are you disgusted with your partner? Does your partner make you feel that you are beneath consideration or worthless? 

SIGN #4: YOU'VE GIVEN UP

After years and years of fighting, have you given up on happiness in your relationship? Do you simply not care anymore? Are you moving through life just to get through the day? 

SIGN #5: LONG PERIODS OF SILENCE

How long has it been since you last spoke to your partner? Hours, days, weeks? Do you avoid going home? Whatever your scenario is, long periods of non-communication and silence are a key sign that your relationship is in distress.

SIGN #6: FEAR

Are you scared of your partner? Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells and that they could snap at any moment? Being in a constant state of fear and anxiety is incredibly stressful and can add to an already anxious relationship situation.

SIGN #7: AFFAIRS OR NO TRUST

Being constantly suspicious of your partner or experiencing an affair in a relationship fundamentally breaks the foundation of trust between you and your partner. It is important to address either one of these issues and identify clear steps to rebuild the relationship and trust again. Without this bond and assurance of your significant other, your relationship will be uncertain, in limbo, and the battles with your spouse will continue.

SIGN #8: EXAGGERATED GESTURES FOR ATTENTION

Is your partner constantly threatening to either hurt themselves, leave you, or engage in unsafe behavior? Sometimes partners will instigate an affair, just to get your attention. Whatever your circumstance is, this type of attention seeking behavior is unhealthy and will not lead to positive outcomes for either person.

SIGN #9: DEPENDENCY

There are moments when you really need to depend on your partner, and yet other times then you need your independence. These feelings come and go, sometimes throughout the day or even through different periods in your life. However, when you partner is constantly dependent on you for decisions, social activities, and you feel that without your existence they would crumble, it is time to consider getting help.

SIGN #10: ISOLATION FROM YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY

One of the biggest red flags that your relationship is dysfunctional is when one partner isolates the other partner from their friends or family. This process is typically very slow and happens over time, but if you are in a relationship where you feel that you cannot reach out to friends or family because of your relationship, a professional counselor can provide some guidance.

If you are considering divorce, contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar at 978-844-4095 to schedule a FREE one hour no obligation consultation.

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