We've all heard again and again warnings for parents to not bad mouth their former spouse to the children following their Massachusetts divorce. Clearly, while it's tempting to put Mom or Dad down for the way they've hurt you in the marriaage, venting to the kids puts them in a very uncomfortable position. They love both of their parents and don't want to hear about the ways your ex misbehaved or initiated your divorce.
Important to keep in mind that Massachusetts divorced parents are still in a relationship, frequently lasting many years. But just because a couple didn't get it right while married, they can still have a respectful parenting relationship after divorce, right? Not very often. With all the bitterness and anger surrounding divorce, children frequently become POWs in the civil war of a custody battle.
Almost everyone who has gone through a Massachusetts divorce has later admitted to making financial mistakes along the way, from blunders or oversights with short-term impacts to more serious lapses in judgment that derailed their long-term financial health. Unfortunately, in many situations, many individuals make a classic misstep that they rarely fess up to: overspending on their kids.
For obvious reasons, a Massachusetts divorce isn't always top-of-mind for couples who go into business together. After all, when you're caught up in the excitement of launching your own venture and seeing your hard work come to life, the last thing you want to plan for is the possibility that it might come to an end. But part of starting and owning a successful business is planning for the unexpected, including the major personal and business-related changes that divorce can bring.So how can you navigate the process and make it out the other end with your assets and financial standing intact?
Therapists are always reminding parents to talk to their Massachusetts children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder - especially in today's mega-paced culture in which just sitting down to a family dinner together seems to be a major accomplishment. Too often, busy parents find themselves talking "at" their children, but not "to" them. And most especially, not "with" them.
If you're a Massachusetts divorcing parent, worries about your kids are high on your "list of stuff that keeps me up at night." Do they feel betrayed? Angry? Grief-stricken? Stigmatized? Will they live like ping pong balls, miserably bouncing between homes? Will they have difficulty forming loving attachments in the future or develop a cynicism about marriage? These are natural questions, and they often prompt concerned parents to ask me if they should put their kids in therapy.