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A Year-By-Year Guide to Your Risk of Massachusetts Divorce

Pretty much anything can lead to a Massachusetts divorce. From employmentDivorce Wishbone.jpg status to how much the couple spent on the wedding, studies have shown that the straw that breaks the camel's back comes in all shapes and sizes.

But can the length of your marriage predict your odds of divorce?

There is no rhyme or reason of methodology or mathematical calculation. As far as we know, scientists have yet to quantify divorce risk based on years married, probably because of many other variables that contribute to a breakup. But isolated studies do give us a general idea how likely your marriage is to end in any given year. Here's what we know:

Year 1-2: High Risk

Your divorce risk in that first year of marriage is as high as it is obvious. For one, the first year of any marriage is usually rocky, and an ideal time to cut ties and move on. Another reason why some men rush to end broken relationships in year one (and the reason why some women push to stick it out) is that prenuptial agreements tend to kick in only after one year, because after that, their exes may get a lot of money.

Studies suggest that most marriages that fail (roughly 10 percent) will do so within the first two years. Based on data from 11,000 divorce cases, researchers concluded that men are more likely to cheat on their wives during this stage of the marriage, leading to a spike in infidelity divorces.

Year 3-4: Average Risk

Census data suggests the average couple begins having children around year three, and there is ample evidence that children increase relationship stability and decrease divorce risk. You're not necessarily staying together for the kids, but the kids are helping you stay together. But don't overestimate the security that a baby brings to a marriage. Kids can be stressful. Perhaps that's why one study of 522 couples found that marriage quality first begins to decline after four years. Most marriages start off with such high levels of quality that it can only change down.

Year 5-8: High Risk

You may have heard of the "seven-year itch", a phrase popularized by a 1952 play and, later, film starring Marilyn Monroe. The itch, refers to a longstanding theory that relationship satisfaction declines after about seven years. Indeed, the notion that marriages stall after seven years is backed by Census data. In the 1920s, the average length of a marriage that ended in divorce was 6.6 years. In 1974 it was 7.5 years; in 1990 it was 7.2 years.

Today, the average length of a marriage that ends in divorce is eight years, according to several estimates, but that extra year may be due to the fact that the average divorce now takes one year to process and clear the legal system.

There are several reasons why this is one of the riskiest periods for a marriage. Scientists suspect that evolution may be at work-at this point in a marriage, younger children tend to be old enough to have good chances of surviving to adulthood, which may mean couples feel free to transition out of marriage. In other words, as infant mortality risk decreases, the odds of divorce may increase at least biologically speaking.

Another explanation is that the seven-year itch has become such a normalized notion that it's now a self-fulfilling prophecy. Couples who are already unhappy may subconsciously wait for the seven-year mark to finally end the marriage, because it's fashionable. It's also around year seven that the effects of children begin to wear off. Studies suggest that having a son protects a marriage against divorce for approximately three years (year six, for the average couple). The icing on the cake? A woman's desire to cheat tends to peak around year six.

Year 9-15: Low Risk

By year nine, most couples no longer have infants at home and there's some evidence that, as children get older, parents report increased relationship satisfaction (there's also evidence that divorce risk increases as children get older, so take that with a grain of salt). Meanwhile, couples that make it to their 10th anniversary experience a lower divorce risk each subsequent year. This could be a result of relationship expectations becoming more practical over time.

Once you realize that life is not a fairytale, then you settle into life and focus on your family and career is also when it first becomes prohibitively expensive and emotionally wrenching for couples to divorce, which may figure into this decreased risk.

Studies suggest that 20 percent of marriages end within the first five years, and that this number increased by 12 percent within 10 years. But between 10 years and 15 years, the rate only increases about 8 percent, implying that one of the safest stages of your marriage is between years 10 and 15.

Year 15-20: Average Risk

Most couples now marry in their 30s, which means year 20 puts them in their 50s. The idea of divorcing in your 50s has become so common that, much like the seven-year itch, it now has its own name: gray divorce. Recent findings from the General Social Survey suggest that men and women over age 55 are also more likely to cheat.

People don't necessarily want to be married for all those years anymore. Alternatively, this divorce spike may be coming from men and women who maintained a traditional marriage and family at the expense of their own happiness and finally reached a breaking point. A lot of people say, "I've been unhappy my whole life, I don't want to spend my last years unhappy."

Should you be in the midst of a divorce or contemplating divorce, contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar at 978-844-4095 to schedule a FREE one hour no obligation consultation.

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