A Massachusetts divorce is rarely welcomed or viewed as a positive event. When a relationship comes to an end, it typically leads to a massive amount of stress and worry and particularly if children are also involved.
Now there are two distinct roads you can follow with your divorce. The first is a road that’s full of revenge and hate. You want to hurt your spouse due to the marriage coming to an end, and you’ll turn into a ruthless, green-eyed monster to ensure that is exactly what happens.
However, there are many reasons why you want to avoid falling into that trap. Instead, you should take the route towards an amicable divorce, if possible. While the process will still be an extremely difficult one, an amicable separation will help to make it as pain-free as possible.
To make it a reality, below are five tips for an amicable divorce.
1. Attempt marriage counseling
Before you and your spouse truly commit to a divorce, it’s always worth trying whatever’s available to turn things around and make the relationship work. One of the most effective methods is marriage counseling.
Even if this counseling doesn’t end up being successful, you won’t be left with any doubts. You’ll know you tried everything to repair your marriage. Plus, it can also help both you and your partner to accept the reality that the relationship is over, and there’s no going back.
2. Receive legal advice early
Even if the aim is an amicable settlement, you must bring on board legal help from the start. You also want someone that has a strong reputation in dealing with divorces.
Once you have found the right legal expert, you can gain the right advice on how to deal with different claims and issues that crop up during divorce discussions.
To make those divorce discussions easier, try and avoid the need for a mediator and communicate directly with your spouse. If you can talk and get across your concerns, aspirations, and general feelings, it can build the foundation for a positive relationship once the divorce is settled. Even if the marriage has ended, there’s always the possibility of remaining friends.
4. Understand the financials
Unless children are involved, the biggest issue with a divorce revolves around the financial impact it can cause. To ensure you’re not caught out, you have to fully understand not just your own finances, but also those of your spouse. When exchanging financial disclosure, this will cover aspects such as:
• Your personal incomes
• Assets you own
• Your personal debts
• The benefits available following the separation
• The cost of appropriate housing
• Approximate outgoings when you no longer live together
5. Get support
Divorce is difficult. There’s a reason why it is compared to mourning the loss of a loved one. This is why you mustn’t go it alone. Lean on your friends and family for emotional support. They will be able to help if you’re feeling upset or anxious about the separation.
Should you be in the midst of a divorce or contemplating divorce, contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar to schedule a FREE one hour no obligation consultation.