As anyone who enters into a Massachusetts marriage knows, the odds feel stacked against couples before the first "I do's" are even said. It's not only that Massachusetts divorce statistics sit pulsing in the distance but also the fact that there are so many different behaviors or scenarios that can upend your relationship. One of the best things to do then is arm ourselves with knowledge of the personality traits that, left unchecked, can doom a marriage. Because we all have bad habits and in understanding the worst ones, we can better recognize our faults, hold ourselves accountable, and be the best partner we can be. In other words, in trying to better ourselves, we can shake the looming specter of Masachusetts divorce from our minds and focus on the future and the joy of being married.
With the Massachusetts divorce rate on the rise it's inevitable that in the course of dating, you'll run into someone with an ex (or two). And somewhere into that first or second date, you've probably asked what went wrong. And when the answer begins with the words my wife, or my husband, it's time to duck out.
When it comes to relationships for Massachusetts spouses, conflict is inevitable. But it doesn't have to be emotionally distressing or callous.
We've all heard again and again warnings for parents to not bad mouth their former spouse to the children following their Massachusetts divorce. Clearly, while it's tempting to put Mom or Dad down for the way they've hurt you in the marriaage, venting to the kids puts them in a very uncomfortable position. They love both of their parents and don't want to hear about the ways your ex misbehaved or initiated your divorce.
Therapists are always reminding parents to talk to their Massachusetts children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder - especially in today's mega-paced culture in which just sitting down to a family dinner together seems to be a major accomplishment. Too often, busy parents find themselves talking "at" their children, but not "to" them. And most especially, not "with" them.
If you're a Massachusetts divorcing parent, worries about your kids are high on your "list of stuff that keeps me up at night." Do they feel betrayed? Angry? Grief-stricken? Stigmatized? Will they live like ping pong balls, miserably bouncing between homes? Will they have difficulty forming loving attachments in the future or develop a cynicism about marriage? These are natural questions, and they often prompt concerned parents to ask me if they should put their kids in therapy.