Although you can't predict what will happen in Massachusetts custody cases, you should draft standard language in custody agreements and court orders that will address common problems that arise in joint legal and physical custody situations. Doing so will help align parental expectations and minimize conflict for children.
When there are challenges around communication while co-parenting after a Massachusetts divorce or separation, a parenting plan, either court ordered or by parental agreement, can structure the ways in which co-parents will communicate about their child. Including communication terms in a parenting plan can help to deescalate conflict, decrease misunderstandings, ensure that both parents have access to vital information, and insulate children from exposure to adult conflict.
Abuse should never be considered discipline and good discipline should never be abusive. But in the heat of a disciplinary moment, particularly one fraught with stress, Massachusetts parents can quickly approach the border of abuse before they even realize it. The speed at which correcting a child can turn into damaging a child makes it hard to pump the breaks, and even harder to be self-aware enough to recognize the danger.
Today's smartphones offer near limitless access to information, but they also access porn, violent imagery, and other disturbing content your Massachusetts children might not be ready to see. And then there's the very real possibility of addiction to the device's entertainment. But, rest assured, with the rise of these devices' ubiquity has come a number of parental control devices and apps that help you do everything from block problematic sites to set weekly screen-time limits.
As a Massachusetts parent, you are likely to be feeling a mix of emotions about sending your children back to school. On one hand, it is a little sad that summer will soon be over, but on the other hand, you could probably stand a little extra quiet time after being around your children more consistently. If you share co-parenting responsibilities with your former partner, however, back-to-school is a perfect time to re-evaluate your rules, boundaries, and other elements of your parenting arrangements.
Taking the high road in a Massachusetts divorce is not easy. As a matter of fact, it might seem downright unfair, and even stupid sometimes. Why would you ever want to do anything good, or fair, or nice to someone who just destroyed your family, your dreams, and your heart? If you have kids, the obvious reason is to do it for their sake. Because whether you like it or not, you and your ex are going to be your kids' parents forever. The better the two of you get along, the easier your divorce will be on your kids. It really is that simple. The second reason for taking the high road in divorce is less obvious, but it is no less important. You can divorce your spouse. But you can never divorce yourself. After your divorce is over, you are going to have to look in the mirror every single day and face yourself. You - who you are and what you stand for - is far more valuable and far more important than acting in a way you will later be ashamed of or regret. In the long run, your integrity is worth more than the extra dollars you may get in your divorce settlement if you lie, cheat, or act like a jerk. You have already lost your marriage. Don't let your divorce cost you your soul, too. Here are 10 ways to taking the high road in divorce:
1. Treat your spouse with respect, even if s/he doesn't deserve it.
The word "narcissist" often gets tossed around as just another descriptor for someone who is vain, boastful or arrogant.