Maybe it started with a snide comment or passive-aggressive sigh. Or maybe the why-do-you-always-take-the-kids-side argument turned into an hour long fight that touched on everything. Whatever happened, things escalated. Tempers flared, frustrations were vented, eyes were rolled, feelings were hurt. Eventually, you lost your cool and called your wife a bitch.
If you have a happy Massachusetts marriage, "'til death do us part" may be a long ways off.
It has long been known that children whose Massachusetts parents split up have lower educational prospects than those whose parents stay together. But a new UCLA study found that divorce does not affect all children equally. Somewhat counterintuitively, the study suggests that divorce shortens the academic career of kids from stable families more than it does those from already struggling families.
Parental Alienation is when one or both Massachusetts divorcing parents attempts to negatively influence their children about the other parent is one of the most terrible outcomes of a divorce gone bad. It's a difficult and complex subject, but the outcome is always the same. Children who are emotionally scarred. When you mix two egos with dramatically differing perspectives, you're bound to get an entanglement of emotions compounded by allegations, defensiveness and self-righteousness. Unfortunately, no one wins when parental alienation runs its course during and after a divorce. But it's the children in particular who lose in a big way. Many of them are affected for life. Behind parental alienation are parents who feel totally justified in hating, resenting or otherwise distancing themselves from their former spouse. They fail to take into account how this might psychologically play out in an innocent child who naturally loves both parents. Backed by the strength of their convictions, these parents feel validated in negatively influencing their children's attitude toward the other parent. Whether its overt put-downs, disparaging comments or more subtle nuances of disdain, they make it clear that they do not like, respect or trust the other parent. The message to the children creates confusion mixed with anxiety, insecurity, guilt and fear. What's a child to do when one of their parents says the other parent, who is genetically a part of them, is bad, wrong, hateful, or not worthy of their love? How should a child handle the burden of learning "truths" about their other parent that only an adult can comprehend? Who can a child turn to when Mom is putting down Dad (or vice versa) and they're feeling angry, frightened or resentful? Parents need to think before they act. They need to look ahead to the consequences before they share secrets that no child should have to know before they take the innocence of childhood from children who are totally powerless to fix their parents' adult problems.
Having kids is seen as an integral part of a Massachusetts married couple's life; it marks the transition from just marriage and living together to, well, being parents. It's a shift that's been explored in pop culture for ages now, because it's come to symbolize the moment that your family really begins to form. But, for many, the question remains: does having kids statistically increase your chances of divorce?