Almost everyone who has gone through a Massachusetts divorce has later admitted to making financial mistakes along the way, from blunders or oversights with short-term impacts to more serious lapses in judgment that derailed their long-term financial health. Unfortunately, in many situations, many individuals make a classic misstep that they rarely fess up to: overspending on their kids.
For obvious reasons, a Massachusetts divorce isn't always top-of-mind for couples who go into business together. After all, when you're caught up in the excitement of launching your own venture and seeing your hard work come to life, the last thing you want to plan for is the possibility that it might come to an end. But part of starting and owning a successful business is planning for the unexpected, including the major personal and business-related changes that divorce can bring.So how can you navigate the process and make it out the other end with your assets and financial standing intact?
Therapists are always reminding parents to talk to their Massachusetts children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder - especially in today's mega-paced culture in which just sitting down to a family dinner together seems to be a major accomplishment. Too often, busy parents find themselves talking "at" their children, but not "to" them. And most especially, not "with" them.
If you're a Massachusetts divorcing parent, worries about your kids are high on your "list of stuff that keeps me up at night." Do they feel betrayed? Angry? Grief-stricken? Stigmatized? Will they live like ping pong balls, miserably bouncing between homes? Will they have difficulty forming loving attachments in the future or develop a cynicism about marriage? These are natural questions, and they often prompt concerned parents to ask me if they should put their kids in therapy.
No, you cannot "make" someone visit or spend parenting time with their children, but you can incentivize, motivate and encourage. One motivation technique or incentive Massachusetts divorce lawyers often employ is to craft the agreement, or court order such that if a visiting parent misses their scheduled visit, they pay the costs for the custodial parent to have a babysitter for that time period or to pay lost wages. Of course that is a negative incentive, sometimes positive ones like perhaps offering to be flexible with the times or to do the work for them (like to plan a birthday or holiday party and let the other parent come enjoy it without having to prepare, contribute or clean up. No, it is not fair. But it may give the children a chance to see the other parent.