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Cries of a Massachusetts Child; Parents Misinterpret

One of the most frequent concerns divorced Massachusetts parents express inChildren 21.png custody disputes is that when their child is supposed to spend time with the other parent, the child cries or clings or sometimes "begs" not to be made to go. The parent generally interprets the child's behavior to mean that the child hates to spend time with the other parent. Sometimes they interpret the behavior to mean the other parent is abusive, or at least incompetent, as a parent. In fact, there are many possible reasons why children resist going from one parent to the other. 1. The children may really not want to spend time with the other parent, sometimes for good reason. But, this is actually quite rare. 2. The children may want to spend time with the other parent but not want to leave the parent they're with. It is common for human beings to simultaneously desire two, mutually exclusive results. We often wish we could eat our cake and have it too. Children are no different. In fact, most children really want to be with both parents and not to leave either. Their favorite fantasy is that their parents would get back together. 3. The children may be sensing non-verbal cues from the parent they are leaving that she or he is sad when the children leave. The children maybe reflecting the parent's feelings, not expressing their own. 4. The children may believe it pleases the parent for them to be sad about leaving. The children may be telling the parent what they think the parent wants to hear. 5. The children may simply find changing from one parent's home to the other uncomfortable. This is usually a temporary upset. Some children welcome change. Others have a more difficult time with it. Parents ought not jump to conclusions when a child resists parenting time. One suggestion is that these parents choose a counselor to help them (the children and the parents) sort out what is really troubling them. Just as important as figuring out the children's true concerns is finding solutions to the problem. The first solution many parents propose is to stop parenting time. That is almost never the best answer, and the counselor can also help the parents devise ways for the children to comfortably spend time in both homes. Often it is the parents who need to learn new skills such as how to give their children sincere permission to feel and express love for both parents.

Which Vaccination Exemptions are Allowed for Massachusetts Children

The Massachusetts Department of Public Health requires children to be vaccinatedImmunizations.jpg in order to be enrolled to school. There are two situations in which children who are not appropriately immunized may be admitted to school:

Child Custody When One Parent is a Non-U.S. Citizen Residing in Massachusetts

As difficult as divorce is when dealing with immigration matters, child custody inImmigration Law 1.jpg Massachusetts may be even more contentious. The general principle concerning child custody was best stated in the U.S. Supreme Court case of Troxel v Granville,

Are You a Victim of Parental Alienation in Massachusetts?

Parental alienation is becoming a more frequent discussion in MassachusettsEmotions.jpg family courts. The concern is often raised when there is difficulty with a parent-child relationship or parent-child access. 

infographic: Screen Time vs. Lean Time: Tips For Divorced Massachusetts Parents

Research shows that kids ages 8-18 now spend, on average, a whopping 7.5 hours in front of a screen for entertainment each day, 4.5 of which are spent watching TV. Over a year, that adds up to 114 full days watching a screen for fun. That's just the time they spend in front of a screen for entertainment. It doesn't include the time they spend on the computer at school for educational purposes or at home for homework.

Consider "the Right of First Refusal" When Crafting a Parenting Plan in Massachusetts

The "right of first refusal" in Massachusetts family law cases is a court Mediation 2.jpgordered right between the parents, that provides "Parent A" the option to care for a child during "Parent B's" designated time, when "Parent A" is otherwise unavailable.

How Can a Guardian ad Litem Help My Massachusetts Case

A guardian ad litem provides information and assistance to courts in disputesGuardian ad Litem.jpg relating to family or probate matters.

Does Having a Criminal History Affect Child Custody in Massachusetts?

In Massachusetts, the degree to which the conduct of a parent can affect aCrime.jpgcustody award depends on many factors, and goes beyond whether or not a parent has a criminal conviction. Certain serious felonies and domestic violence weigh heavily against awarding custody, but evidence of parental fitness may overcome this.

How To Draft Parenting Plans To Avoid Potential Future Conflicts in Massachusetts

Massachusetts family law attorneys need to draft parenting plans with the utmostKids First.jpg care to make sure that uncertainty and ambiguity don't undermine the best intentions. A court-ordered parenting plan governs how parents will share the "care, custody and management of their child." What goes into a  plan is often the result of extensive negotiations and mediation.

Do You Really Need To Hire a Massachusetts Divorce Attorney?

If you're facing a change in your marriage and family life, you're not alone in Massachusetts. TheDivorce 55.jpg best thing you can do is to find out what your options are, and learn how to protect yourself, your assets, and/or your children. One of the most common questions someone in this situation asks is, "Do I really need to hire an attorney to represent me?"

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