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5 Myths of Divorce Litigation in Massachusetts

A Massachusetts divorce is not an everyday occurrence for most individuals.Divorce 172.jpg  Because of this, most of our clients come to us seeking help in a divorce with certain ideas and preconceived notions as to what they expect their divorce to look like. Whether they get these ideas and notions from television, magazines, or even from friends and family members who have experienced their own Massachusetts divorce, there are certain myths which are quite common about the divorce process.

Parental Alienation in Massachusetts: A Divorce Disaster Sure to Alienate Your Children

Parental Alienation is when one or both Massachusetts divorcing parents attemptsChildren 33.jpg to negatively influence their children about the other parent is one of the most terrible outcomes of a divorce gone bad. It's a difficult and complex subject, but the outcome is always the same. Children who are emotionally scarred. When you mix two egos with dramatically differing perspectives, you're bound to get an entanglement of emotions compounded by allegations, defensiveness and self-righteousness. Unfortunately, no one wins when parental alienation runs its course during and after a divorce. But it's the children in particular who lose in a big way. Many of them are affected for life. Behind parental alienation are parents who feel totally justified in hating, resenting or otherwise distancing themselves from their former spouse. They fail to take into account how this might psychologically play out in an innocent child who naturally loves both parents. Backed by the strength of their convictions, these parents feel validated in negatively influencing their children's attitude toward the other parent. Whether its overt put-downs, disparaging comments or more subtle nuances of disdain, they make it clear that they do not like, respect or trust the other parent. The message to the children creates confusion mixed with anxiety, insecurity, guilt and fear. What's a child to do when one of their parents says the other parent, who is genetically a part of them, is bad, wrong, hateful, or not worthy of their love? How should a child handle the burden of learning "truths" about their other parent that only an adult can comprehend? Who can a child turn to when Mom is putting down Dad (or vice versa) and they're feeling angry, frightened or resentful? Parents need to think before they act. They need to look ahead to the consequences before they share secrets that no child should have to know before they take the innocence of childhood from children who are totally powerless to fix their parents' adult problems.

9 Words Parents Should Never Say to Their Massachusetts Kid

Scientists have demonstrated for decades that Massachusetts parents words exertDreaming Girl.jpg tremendous power over a child's developing mind. What a parent says to their kid has very real consequences and there are words that seem to have overwhelmingly negative consequences. None of this has to do with culture or background or "grit"; this has to do with the practical ramifications of the actions taken by adults. So, yes, there are words that should be removed from the vocabulary of adults, not in the interest of furthering a cultural or political agenda, but in the interest of helping kids become happy adults.

Don't Let "Mom Guilt" Make You a Worse Massachusetts Parent

A unifying theme of motherhood is guilt. Massachusetts mothers all feel it, react to it, and sometimesWoman Multitasking.jpg perpetuate it. No matter what choices are made about childcare, staying at home, working part-time, or pursuing a full-time career, mothers aren't immune to the nagging feeling that we could do better by our Massachusetts kids. Of course, mom guilt can be a good thing if it serves as a gentle reminder that our actions toward our children matter. Guilt, can be described as a healthy conscience and can be useful if it inspires more productive involvement or a sincere apology, or if it helps us bite our tongue.

Why Massachusetts Toddlers Need Their Dads

Massachusetts children need involved fathers throughout their lives. Kids witBest Dad.jpgh active dads are less likely to drop out of school, become obese, have risky sex, and develop mental health problems. But little boys, in particular, need their dads during the "terrible twos", when boys experience testosterone fueled aggression for the first time and have no idea how to deal with it. During this crucial period, it's up to father figures to show boys how to cope with their emotional impulses, so they don't become aggressive, violent men.

What Divorced Massachusetts Parents Need to Know About Co-Parenting After the Split

A Massachusetts divorce may change the way a family looks, but it does not haveChildren 30.jpg to break it completely. Massachusetts parents who can manage to stay civil and connected when their marriage ends offer their kid much better outcomes. That's because kids thrive in stable environments and are better able to handle the world when they have a sense that their mom and dad are co-parenting to further their child's interests.

How Fatherhood Alters Male Biology For Massachusetts Men

We know how women's bodies adapt to motherhood. Hormonal shifts, neurological flips, and, of course, the obvious post-partum biological changes. But only recently have scientists begun to focus on how men's bodies adapt to fatherhood. We now know that fathers experience changes in their hormone levels (especially testosterone and oxytocin); their brains respond differently to parent-related stimuli, and even their socioeconomic status tends to change once children arrive.

Here's the data behind these conclusions....

What Happens When You Tell Massachusetts Kids They're Just Like Dad

You have your mother's eyes, your father's temperament, your grandfather's wayChildren 29.jpg with language, and your grandmother's personality - or maybe not. It's possible those claims, echoing through the course of your childhood, became a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's all part of the nature vs nurture debate, a story that is often oversimplified in child development by making broad generational comparisons. And those comparisons can be misleading, if not downright damaging, precisely because they conflate fate and genetics.

6 Trouble Signs to Look Out For When Co-Parenting With Your Massachusetts Ex

Once the smoke has cleared from your Massachusetts divorce, former spousesYoung Children.jpg have to go about the business of figuring out how to be co-parents. In a perfect world, they'd be able to work together, setting aside their differences and keeping the best interests of the kids first and foremost in their minds. And, in most cases, that's what happens. But, there are instances where a healthy collaboration between exes just isn't possible.

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