No two Massachusetts marriages end in the same way. But when looking at the larger picture, patterns emerge. And, prior to divorce, there are some key factors that stand out more than others. A variety of relationship experts and therapists and when asked this one question: What, according to what you've noticed, is the most common predictor of divorce? The professionals responded with everything from failures of accountability to issues of contempt to slow erosions of trust.
A unifying theme of motherhood is guilt. Massachusetts mothers all feel it, react to it, and sometimes perpetuate it. No matter what choices are made about childcare, staying at home, working part-time, or pursuing a full-time career, mothers aren't immune to the nagging feeling that we could do better by our Massachusetts kids. Of course, mom guilt can be a good thing if it serves as a gentle reminder that our actions toward our children matter. Guilt, can be described as a healthy conscience and can be useful if it inspires more productive involvement or a sincere apology, or if it helps us bite our tongue.
There are a lot of tropes about Massachusetts fathers, but one tends to stick out the most: the distant. He's there, he's present - sort of - but he seems distant and far away. He's the dad on Stranger Things who reads the paper at breakfast and doesn't really seem to engage with his family; he's the dad who comes home from work and immediately retreats to the den. It's a cliche, but it's a cliche for a reason. Men tend to withdraw.
It's hard being a calm Massachusetts parent. The lack of sleep, the uncertainty of inexperience, the social pressures from other people - all of it undermines the effort to stay chill. Parents aren't supposed to lose their temper, but they inevitably do. And that's upsetting to children. If it happens a lot early in life, research indicates that the stress of exposure to anger can create behavior patterns that affect future socialization, emotional management, and self-esteem. Exposure to volatility can even lead to anxiety issues and OCD. Though the ideal solution may be to remain calm, the more workable solution is to know how to calm a kid down.
In any Massachusetts marriage even in the strongest, happiest ones, problems and frustrations will inevitably arise. And while it's not worth broaching every single little grievance that grinds your gears there are certain problems that really shouldn't be ignored.
Attempting to achieve absolute equality, or going 50-50, in a Massachusetts marriage may be a good way to pick a fight about whose turn it is to change the baby's diaper, but it's not the best way to maintain a healthy relationship.
A cheating Massachusetts wife or husband evokes a predictable sort of rage in the scorned spouse including an intense urge to seek revenge.