Whether you're fantasy-prone or a pragmatic realist, the temptation to romanticize the past (including your former flame) can be emotionally gratifying.
Recent research details factors that can lengthen your life, and those that can shorten it - everything from eating less, exercising more and being optimistic (longer life) to obesity, alcoholism and sleeping too much (shorter life).
If iPads, smartphones, and screens seem like drugs for Massachusetts kids, it's because they have a lot in common with uppers when it comes to a child's developing brain. Screen time, sugar, and reward all flood kids' brains with dopamine, the same feel-good chemical released when people do cocaine or see that someone liked their Instagram post.
Massachusetts babies don't lie. Massachusetts toddlers rarely lie. Little kids lie a lot. And it's all good. When a child begins lying, it's a pretty good sign that they are experiencing some healthy cognitive development. Lying tends to give way to honesty and solid communication skills over time when parents aggressively police behavior. Development and education on right and wrong (don't steal cookies) leads to a multi-faceted understanding of the complex concept of honesty.
Yelling at Massachusetts kids feels like an inevitability as a parent. Yelling seems like the perfect tool for getting a preoccupied kid's attention, or punishing them for doing wrong, or simply expressing feelings of anger. But all of the shouting, screaming, or yelling at kids is deeply unhelpful to parenting. Because getting loud is not communication.
Maybe it started with a snide comment or passive-aggressive sigh. Or maybe the why-do-you-always-take-the-kids-side argument turned into an hour long fight that touched on everything. Whatever happened, things escalated. Tempers flared, frustrations were vented, eyes were rolled, feelings were hurt. Eventually, you lost your cool and called your wife a bitch.
If you have a happy Massachusetts marriage, "'til death do us part" may be a long ways off.
It has long been known that children whose Massachusetts parents split up have lower educational prospects than those whose parents stay together. But a new UCLA study found that divorce does not affect all children equally. Somewhat counterintuitively, the study suggests that divorce shortens the academic career of kids from stable families more than it does those from already struggling families.
Parental Alienation is when one or both Massachusetts divorcing parents attempts to negatively influence their children about the other parent is one of the most terrible outcomes of a divorce gone bad. It's a difficult and complex subject, but the outcome is always the same. Children who are emotionally scarred. When you mix two egos with dramatically differing perspectives, you're bound to get an entanglement of emotions compounded by allegations, defensiveness and self-righteousness. Unfortunately, no one wins when parental alienation runs its course during and after a divorce. But it's the children in particular who lose in a big way. Many of them are affected for life. Behind parental alienation are parents who feel totally justified in hating, resenting or otherwise distancing themselves from their former spouse. They fail to take into account how this might psychologically play out in an innocent child who naturally loves both parents. Backed by the strength of their convictions, these parents feel validated in negatively influencing their children's attitude toward the other parent. Whether its overt put-downs, disparaging comments or more subtle nuances of disdain, they make it clear that they do not like, respect or trust the other parent. The message to the children creates confusion mixed with anxiety, insecurity, guilt and fear. What's a child to do when one of their parents says the other parent, who is genetically a part of them, is bad, wrong, hateful, or not worthy of their love? How should a child handle the burden of learning "truths" about their other parent that only an adult can comprehend? Who can a child turn to when Mom is putting down Dad (or vice versa) and they're feeling angry, frightened or resentful? Parents need to think before they act. They need to look ahead to the consequences before they share secrets that no child should have to know before they take the innocence of childhood from children who are totally powerless to fix their parents' adult problems.