Therapists are always reminding parents to talk to their Massachusetts children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder - especially in today's mega-paced culture in which just sitting down to a family dinner together seems to be a major accomplishment. Too often, busy parents find themselves talking "at" their children, but not "to" them. And most especially, not "with" them.
If you're a Massachusetts divorcing parent, worries about your kids are high on your "list of stuff that keeps me up at night." Do they feel betrayed? Angry? Grief-stricken? Stigmatized? Will they live like ping pong balls, miserably bouncing between homes? Will they have difficulty forming loving attachments in the future or develop a cynicism about marriage? These are natural questions, and they often prompt concerned parents to ask me if they should put their kids in therapy.
You want to be a happy Massachusetts parent but your countless responsibilities make this goal challenging. Don't lose hope just yet.
What Is Phubbing and Why Is It So Damaging to a Massachusetts Marriage?
Phones and the social media and games and apps they contain are basically dopamine slot machines, designed to keep people scrolling, liking, commenting, email-checking, and Fortniting. The major thing they distract from? Relationships. In fact, the stranglehold that devices have on relationships has become so great it's even been given its own name: "phubbing." A portmanteau of "phone" and "snubbing," the term is fairly self-explanatory and illustrates the nature of the problem pretty well. After all, a snub is a rude and dismissive gesture and the fact that couples are using the term to describe their partner's choice of their device over quality time says a lot. While the term seems cutesy, Phubbing is basically relationship-napalm. One recent study found that the behavior actually facilitates relationship dissatisfaction on an almost-subconscious level by creating emotional distance between romantic partners.
Anger is a perfectly natural emotion, and a primitive one as well. It's a fight or flight response - something that our minds and bodies need in order to tell us when we're unsafe. One of the biggest mistakes anyone can make is to treat anger as something unnatural.