When parents decide to divorce it is only fair to be honest with the children. Depending on the family dynamics and the ages of the children some may already be well aware that there are problems, while others may not have a clue about what is going on.
Ideally it is best to gather together as a family to tell the children of an impending divorce or separation. Doing this presents a united front. It shows the children that even though you are getting divorced you still both love them and are united in your responsibility to them. It also allows an opportunity for the children to ask questions and get answers from both parents.
While the children don't need to know the intricate details of the divorce they do need to know how it will impact them and their daily lives including new living arrangements. Let them know how they can communicate with each parent when they are with the other parent.
This is a lot for a child of any age to take in all at once. Plan a follow up family meeting to answer any questions that the children may have. Keeping the lines of communication open and honest can help smooth the adjustment period.
As I said earlier, "ideally" a family meeting is the best way to tell the children about divorce, but we don't always live in an ideal world. If one parent has suddenly moved out or if there is bitter fighting going on than a family meeting probably won't work. Difficult as it may be, put aside your anger and hurt and give the children the age appropriate information they need to cope with the changes that lie ahead for them.
Even in the best of situations divorce is not easy, but if handled correctly parents can make the transition less stressful for the children and therefore themselves.
Should you have questions regarding divorce proceedings contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar either by email or telephone 978-844-4095 to schedule a free one hour consultation.
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