Law Offices of Renee Lazar
AFFORDABLE AND EFFECTIVE REPRESENTATION
CALL RENEE TODAY AT 978-844-4095

July 2019 Archives

6 Mistakes Massachusetts Couples Make When Fighting And How to Fix Them

Arguments are a natural part of a Massachusetts marriage. They are necessary toCouple Fight.jpg push one another, to settle disagreements, to make feelings known, and arrive at the best solutions. But, of course, not all argument tactics are created equal. When spats are recurring, explosive, frequent, or never move on to solving a real problem that exists couples need to recalibrate the way they talk and discuss their issues and, well, figure out how to fight "well."

How Screen Time Creates Massachusetts Kid 'Dopamine Addicts' With Bad Habits

If iPads, smartphones, and screens seem like drugs for Massachusetts kids, itSocial Media 23.jpg's because they have a lot in common with uppers when it comes to a child's developing brain. Screen time, sugar, and reward all flood kids' brains with dopamine, the same feel-good chemical released when people do cocaine or see that someone liked their Instagram post.

How to Raise an Honest Massachusetts Kid

Massachusetts babies don't lie. Massachusetts toddlers rarely lie. Little kids lie aLiar 3.jpg lot. And it's all good. When a child begins lying, it's a pretty good sign that they are experiencing some healthy cognitive development. Lying tends to give way to honesty and solid communication skills over time when parents aggressively police behavior. Development and education on right and wrong (don't steal cookies) leads to a multi-faceted understanding of the complex concept of honesty.

What Am I Doing to My Massachusetts Kid When I Yell?

Yelling at Massachusetts kids feels like an inevitability as a parent. Yelling seemsYelling at Kid.jpg like the perfect tool for getting a preoccupied kid's attention, or punishing them for doing wrong, or simply expressing feelings of anger. But all of the shouting, screaming, or yelling at kids is deeply unhelpful to parenting. Because getting loud is not communication.

Infographic: Drug Testing in Massachusetts Family Courts

Substance abuse and drug addiction are issues that affect many Massachusetts families. According to the National Survey on Drug Use and Health, more than 24 million Americans are currently suffering from some form of drug or alcohol addiction. This is an issue that affects people of every background - including parents.

How to Help a Massachusetts Teenage Daughter Get Along With Her Mom

When a Massachusetts daughter hits puberty, her relationship with her mom is almost guaranTeen 1.jpgeed to deteriorate. This strained relationship is actually a good sign of normal development, even if it might be occasionally painful for parents. But the good news is that dads are in a unique position to ease tensions between mom and daughter, says therapists. 

How to Get Your Massachusetts Marriage Back on Track After a Terrible Fight

Maybe it started with a snide comment or passive-aggressive sigh. Or maybe thDivorce Conflict.jpge why-do-you-always-take-the-kids-side argument turned into an hour long fight that touched on everything. Whatever happened, things escalated. Tempers flared, frustrations were vented, eyes were rolled, feelings were hurt. Eventually, you lost your cool and called your wife a bitch.

Massachusetts Parents - Don't Make These Mistakes When Paying For College

Massachusetts parents want to do everything they can to give their kids the bestCollege Savings 1.jpg opportunities in life, and some may feel they haven't done a good job if they can't give their student the college experience they want. Meanwhile, college costs have climbed faster than family income, while most new jobs demand some level of postsecondary training.

Why a Massachusetts Divorce May Hurt Wealthier Kids Education

It has long been known that children whose Massachusetts parents split up havDivorce and Child.jpge lower educational prospects than those whose parents stay together. But a new UCLA study found that divorce does not affect all children equally. Somewhat counterintuitively, the study suggests that divorce shortens the academic career of kids from stable families more than it does those from already struggling families.

Parental Alienation in Massachusetts: A Divorce Disaster Sure to Alienate Your Children

Parental Alienation is when one or both Massachusetts divorcing parents attemptsChildren 33.jpg to negatively influence their children about the other parent is one of the most terrible outcomes of a divorce gone bad. It's a difficult and complex subject, but the outcome is always the same. Children who are emotionally scarred. When you mix two egos with dramatically differing perspectives, you're bound to get an entanglement of emotions compounded by allegations, defensiveness and self-righteousness. Unfortunately, no one wins when parental alienation runs its course during and after a divorce. But it's the children in particular who lose in a big way. Many of them are affected for life. Behind parental alienation are parents who feel totally justified in hating, resenting or otherwise distancing themselves from their former spouse. They fail to take into account how this might psychologically play out in an innocent child who naturally loves both parents. Backed by the strength of their convictions, these parents feel validated in negatively influencing their children's attitude toward the other parent. Whether its overt put-downs, disparaging comments or more subtle nuances of disdain, they make it clear that they do not like, respect or trust the other parent. The message to the children creates confusion mixed with anxiety, insecurity, guilt and fear. What's a child to do when one of their parents says the other parent, who is genetically a part of them, is bad, wrong, hateful, or not worthy of their love? How should a child handle the burden of learning "truths" about their other parent that only an adult can comprehend? Who can a child turn to when Mom is putting down Dad (or vice versa) and they're feeling angry, frightened or resentful? Parents need to think before they act. They need to look ahead to the consequences before they share secrets that no child should have to know before they take the innocence of childhood from children who are totally powerless to fix their parents' adult problems.

Is An Unhappy Marriage Better Than A Massachusetts Divorce?

A Massachusets marriage, like the love that leads to it, rides many waves ofDivorce 161.jpg change. And not all are fun. So asking, "Is an unhappy marriage better than divorce?" isn't a yes-or-no query.

Law Offices of Renee Lazar
4308 Thompson Farm
Bedford, MA 01730
Phone: 978-844-4095
Fax: 781-687-5807
Map and Directions