Here are 17 things you can say to your kids in the hours, days and weeks after you and your soon-to-be-ex tell them about your divorce:
- There are going to be lots of changes, but here is what won't change. My love for you and your mom's (or dad's) love for you. Both are constant and ever lasting.
- This must be really, really scary for you. I get it. But you won't feel this way for very long.
- I'm here for you, whatever you need from me.
- I will talk to you and listen to you for as long as you need.
- I will hug you as much as you want.
- I will pray with you.
- I've got you.
- Every kid knows kids who have divorced parents. They aren't going to be as surprised as you think they are, because you aren't their first friend to tell them your parents are getting divorced.
- We are still a family filled with love. That will never change.
- You are special and you mean everything to me.
- I feel such gratitude that I'm your mom (or dad.)If you are angry, that's OK. But get it out. Tell someone. I can be that person if you want. You can yell and scream and hit something if you need to.
- It's OK to cry. It's a good thing, actually, even for boys.
- You can ask me a million questions, even the same ones over and over again and I will answer you.
- If you heard me on the phone with someone or you saw me crying, ask me about it. I will be honest with you.
- I will always love mom (or dad's) family because they will always be your family and they love you so much.
- Things are going to be sad for a little while and then down the road, they won't be anymore.
- The best thing I ever did was have you.
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