Your first meeting with a family law mediator is on the calendar, and it’s time to make sure you’re prepared. First, make a list of the major issues you wish to discuss and/or resolve with the other parent. For example, you might hope to reach a decision together about child custody or child support.
For many parents, deciding on a parenting time schedule for a child is a real challenge. This means deciding which parent gets to see the child for holidays, birthdays, summer vacations, etc. Think about these events in advance, determine which are most important to you, and prepare to negotiate.
If you have any concerns about your ex or your child that you’d like to discuss, list those as well. For example, you may want to talk about your family’s drop-off plan or reach an agreement about how you’ll both handle the occasional need to reschedule your parenting time.
What to Bring
Bring a list of issues and areas of concern that you want to discuss. If you plan to discuss any scheduling matters, you should bring a calendar that is marked with important dates. You also should bring a pen and paper in case you want to jot down notes.
You may want to bring paperwork, if it relates to your child’s well-being and needs to be discussed. This might include school reports, notes from teachers, doctor’s notes, etc.
How to Manage Your Expectations
Think realistically about your relationship with the other parent. Do you have a history of conflict? Have you had difficulties working together in the past? The mediator will facilitate the conversation, but the mediator cannot make parents work together.
To help manage your expectations prior to mediation, make a list of your goals that you would like to achieve through mediation. Also make a list of concerns or potential obstacles to meeting your goals. Preparing this list in advance may help you approach the mediation in a realistic manner.
Should you be in the midst of a divorce or contemplating divorce, contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar either through email or telephone 978-844-4095 to learn about the divorce mediation process.