Whether there for a Massachusetts divorce hearing or to handle a custody agreement, Massachusetts family court is a charged and emotional situation for everyone involved. It makes sense: in that room, a decision will likely be made that will drastically change the course of our life.
In order to keep the process as stress-free as possible, there are some very basic things that parents should never do.
Losing Your Cool
Emotions run high in family court, but never let them boil over. The eyes of the court are on you and even the smallest blowup can have long-lasting implications.
Posting Inappropriate Content on Social Media
When you're dealing with a Massachusetts family court proceeding, your every move is being scrutinized, even when you're not in the courtroom. And that means that anything you do that's even remotely out of line can come back to haunt you - especially on social media.
Running Down Your Spouse to Your Kids
If there's bad blood with an ex, it's natural to want to vent to someone about him or her, but never, ever let that someone be your kids. In a family court case, the judge is always the jury,. There is no such thing as a jury trial in family court, and the biggest no-no in family court is one parent badmouthing the other parent.
Bringing Your New Relationship to Court
Maybe you think you need your new girlfriend or boyfriend to come with you to court for some kind of moral support, but having him or her there can send a bad message and inflame the situation. That's your way of giving your spouse the middle finger. If you're an adult, you don't bring your whole extended family. Your mother, your father, your next-door neighbor, the cop down the street, because nobody's interested. You come like the adult you are and you sit down.
Not Staying Clean or Sober
It doesn't matter what county you're in, that judge will always err on the side of caution and send you to wherever you can get drug-tested immediately. And you would be stunned how many times the virtuous parent comes back testing positive for Oxycontin without a prescription or alcohol in their system and they're in court at 9:30 in the morning, which means that they were either drinking that morning or drinking to excess over the last couple of days.
Appearances matter in court and guys who show up wearing tank tops or women who show up in too-short miniskirts will send the wrong message to the judge, not to mention everyone else in the courtroom. You don't want your appearance to be a distraction.
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