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Massachusetts Fathers Guide To Not Missing Out on Your Child's Childhood

Being there isn't enough - a good Massachusetts dad is a present dad. That meansFather and son 4.jpg savoring every moment with your child, putting away your smartphone, and living mindfully. Alas, like anything worthwhile, it takes practice. Lots of practice. "Presence is focusing on right now, rather than having your awareness on something in the future, or worrying about the past," marriage and family according to therapist David Klow.  "It's training our minds to focus on the depth of the moment rather than fleeing to go somewhere else."

Noticing what is happening in your body can be an anchor for being present.

Meditation and yoga can help, too. But for busy parents who can't even find time to breathe mindfully, let alone work yoga into their daily schedules, there's a quicker fix - put away your smartphone, notice what your kids are doing, and give them specific feedback. After all, isn't that your job as a parent?

"I hear many parents talk about missing out on the moment. They describe it feeling like their children grow up in the blink of an eye," Klow adds. "This suggests not having fully taken in the moments over the years as they were occurring. One significant downside of not being present is that life can pass us by

The idea of being present or mindful derives from Buddhist practice and was first brought to the U.S. by Jon Kabat-Zinn of the University of Massachusetts Medical School. Kabat-Zinn adapted the Buddhist principles of mindfulness to western psychology in 1979, and named his program Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction - scientific-sounding jargon intended to distance the therapy from religious practice.

"Mindfulness" is now a household term and pop-psychology standby, with studies claiming it reduces anxiety, boosts cognitive functioning, improves self-esteem, and curbs age and racial biases.

The trick is learning how to do it as a Massachusetts parent. Because the rigors of parenting are anything but mindful. Lack of sleep makes meditation tricky, and juggling soccer practice with that piano recital sure makes living in the moment seem unrealistic.

Experts suggest parents start by focusing on their breathing, which can itself decrease stress, regulate blood pressure, and help with emotional control. This will make it easier to pay attention to other internal cues, and focus on the moment rather than dwelling on the past or jumping into the future without savoring the present. 

If you feel as if your missing out on the important moments in your child's life, contact the Law Offices of Renee Lazar at 978-844-4095 to schedule a FREE one hour consultation to discuss your parenting plan options.

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