Does your heart hurt when the one you love doesn’t love you back? Oh, the pain you feel can be unbearable when you love someone who doesn’t love you back. I can go as far as saying that one might feel their world crumble around them when the one they love doesn’t want them.
Loving someone who doesn’t love you or wants you can be heart-wrenching – whether I talk about your partner falling out of love with you or unrequited love – the feeling can be quite devastating on your heart.
It’s easy to keep hoping that things will get better and change for you. Unfortunately, when this doesn’t happen, losing the remaining hope can be emotionally distressing. Feelings might never go away.
But what if I tell you that you can let go of someone who doesn’t love you or wants you? I know, you must be wondering “Why should I let them go?” Trust me, it is OK to let go of someone who doesn’t love you anymore. It’s even mentally and emotionally healthy for you.
However, letting go of them does take a lot of work.
Why Does Letting Go Of A Loved One Difficult?
Many reasons can be behind your reluctance to let go. One of them can be that the one you love is still in your life in some way. When you have feelings for someone, letting them in your life – even for a small part – can make it harder for you to let go. Contacting them or letting them contact you when you’re trying to move one isn’t right.
When you do this, you’re holding yourself back from moving forward in life. Maybe you’re scared to move on. You’ve given your heart to this relationship but it didn’t work out. Maybe you’re afraid to let them go. Maybe you don’t want to be alone. There can be many reasons you’re holding on to them.
When it comes to a relationship, it can be challenging to break the bond and move on but the longer you keep this person around who doesn’t care about your feelings anymore, the more you’ll hurt. And if you keep doing this, you’ll keep hurting yourself and you don’t deserve this, do you?
Ways To Let Go Of Someone Who Doesn’t Love You
1. Let Yourself Grieve
It’s okay to hurt and to feel sad over wanting to let go of someone who doesn’t love you anymore. When a relationship ends, let yourself grieve for the loss. Being heartbroken is a part of loving someone and it’s okay to be sad. So instead of pushing your feelings away, allow yourself to grieve. Do what makes you process your grief.
2. Spend Some Time Alone
When you let go of someone, it can feel challenging to be alone once more. Maybe you got used to doing things together and now you need to relearn to be alone again. This can feel like you’re losing your identity but trust me, you’re still there. Try to spend some time alone and get to know yourself better. Find the comfort you need in yourself. If you can’t stay alone for long, reach out to your support system.
3. Don’t Blame Yourself
No matter your circumstances, don’t blame yourself for your partner falling out of love or not loving you back. There can be many reasons why your loved one doesn’t love you but it’s not always about you and your personality. So don’t blame yourself because this will make you self-doubt and lose confidence in yourself. And losing confidence can make it challenging for you to let go and move on.
4. Think About The Positives
You want to let go of someone who doesn’t want you or love you and while this thought can be devastating to think about, think about the positives too. Open your mind and see if moving on can be a blessing. Instead of feeling discouraged about moving on being painful, look at it as a learning experience.
5. Let Go Of Your Control
When you hold on to your emotions and control everything about your relationship, it can become difficult to let go. When you learn to be free of control, it can come with acceptance. Instead of holding onto your control, try to enjoy the grateful moments you’ve spent with them. Letting go of the things that you can’t control can help you move on.
6. Know That It’s Time To Move On
Slowly, you’ll let go of them. It won’t happen in a day and it won’t be easy but you’ll begin healing one day. However, you need to know it’s time to move on. The more days pass, the more you’ll be able to see things clearly. Letting go doesn’t have to happen immediately. It will take time but one day it will happen.
7. Make Space For Love
Maybe the thought of loving someone else is not on your mind and that’s okay but you need to understand that to move on you need to make space for love in your heart. Only when you let love in will you someday find someone worthy of your love. It might be painful but make space for love.
8. Talk To A Trusted One
Moving on from a loved one can take more mental patience than you think. It’s easy to say that you’ll move on but it can be harder to move on. If you’re finding it hard to move on, make sure that you reach out to someone you trust.
Ask a family member, a friend, or even a mental health professional for help. You don’t have to go through this pain alone. Finding solace in love and friendship can help you move on.
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